July 15, 2020 | Posted by Heather Dominick
Growing in a world made by and for the 80%, HSEs can develop coping mechanisms that hurt. These coping mechanisms create a by-product that can be difficult to shake, and that by-product is shame. When that hits us, as most Highly Sensitive people know very well, it can stop us dead in our tracks. We are left feeling awful and having no clue what to do next.
Highly Sensitive Shame can be very sly and sneaky; hard to recognize while silently wreaking havoc on what you are wanting to create and accomplish in your work and life. But the HSE, in control of her reactions to her emotions, rarely defaults to blame, shame, disconnect or disassociation when her highly sensitive nervous system is over-stimulated, but instead intuitively turns to tools, teachings and accountability support to access a level of awareness that allows her to move through her nervous system overload with swift grace. Listen in to today’s episode to find out how to get to this place of gracefulness and self-compassion instead of shame and coping.
Shame is not a genetic makeup, it is a feeling.” – Heather Dominick
- What happens when we hear the words we hold against ourselves
- What shame is and its connection to resistance
- Why our ego uses shame
- How an experience with her mother left Heather feeling intense shame
- Why a past experience can lock us into that experience in the future
- How HSEs can begin taking responsibility for their past reactions and take control of their future
That efficient part of your brain is telling you, ‘this means exactly what it meant last time you felt this way’.” – Heather Dominick
The recognition of your shame experience for you is the beginning of taking your responsibility for it.” – Heather Dominick