April 12, 2019 | Posted by Heather Dominick
I’ve been doing a lot of exploring with these 3 “R” words for Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs): Resonance, Resistance, and Resilience as my body, mind and soul prepares for the in-depth Training Retreat I’ll be leading in May for my Business Miracles Mentoring Program Members.
What’s interesting about these ‘R” words for HSEs is how we relate to them is not black and white, not cut and dry – because of our HSE Coping Mechanisms.
For example, as an HSE you can’t just say, “I only do what feels right to me in my business” (Resonance) because if you tend toward the HSE Coping Mechanism of Hiding the only things that will “feel right” is what your ego-mind (fear-based mind) tells you is safe.
If you tend toward the HSE Coping Mechanism of Pushing you’re most likely disconnected from your heart and operating only from what your head says you “should” do. So, Resonance is unreliable there, too.
If you’re HSE Coping Mechanism is a Combo-Platter (Hider/Pusher) you’ll be swinging back and forth between the two.
Also, making Resonance confusing and elusive.
Then what happens is the Resilience you need as an HSE to be financially successful will be overridden by Resistance to anything that threatens the destruction of your Coping Mechanism and the HSE Coping Cycle …
Even though that is EXACTLY what’s needed.
Again, not black and white, not cut and dry.
But to get from where you are (Resistance) to where you need to be (Resilience) is a process. As Maya Angelo says, “when we know better, we do better”.
But the knowing must be earned step by conscious step as each aspect of the HSE Coping Mechanism (Resistance) is dismantled.
Perhaps by this point you’re thinking, “why bother?” or “too hard” or “so much work”.
(Which, of course, is your Resistance. :))
If that’s the case, my high business mentor recommendation is that when you feel the grip of Resistance slowing you down take a moment to pause and ask yourself, “what do I want?” and stay with that questions over and over again until you’re sure it’s your heart that answers.
And then take the next doable baby step action toward the direction of what you want.
Remember: your head will hold you back tempting you with everything familiar (Resistance). Your heart will call you forward, into the unknown, asking you to step without seeing, create without calculating, and will always lead you to freedom (Resilience).
P.S. I’m sure I’ll have more to share on these 3 R’s as we make our way toward May and the Business Miracles Spring 2019 Training Retreat. 🙂