Historically this time of year people, particularly in the Northern Hemisphere, look for a way to cope in the darkness of the winter season:
Imbolc, or Imbolg – one of the lesser-known festivals of the ancient Celts, celebrate the strengthening light of the Sun.
Candlemas – Imbolc’s Catholic counterpart, celebrates the Feast of the Holy Encounter.
Groundhog Day – a popular North American tradition derived from the Pennsylvania Dutch superstition that if a groundhog emerging from its burrow on this day sees its shadow due to clear weather, it will retreat to its den and winter will persist for six more weeks; but if it does not see its shadow because of cloudiness, spring will arrive early.
As sacred (or silly!) as they are, all of these festivals, celebrations, rituals and holidays have been established as a way to remind people that things will change.
That the light will come.
If you associate this time of year with feelings of darkness or despair, you are not alone! The fact that these holidays have all popped up is evidence that this is a very normal and natural part of the human annual cycle.
So often when we are faced with “darkness” we try to rush ourselves through it because we fear that it will engulf us and we will never resurface into the “light”.
Or that we can’t “get done what needs to get done” due to the darkness.
But there is beauty and power in darkness.
It is through darkness that transformation occurs.
AND, since we feel things so deeply as Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, we have an opportunityto create from darkness.
When we can learn to lean in and embrace the darkness – with the knowing that the light will come – there can be creation happening WITHIN the darkness.
It will look different than active creation in that it will be from a space of creative stillness, but the creation is still happening.
IN FAITH, Heather
P.S. This was the exact topic of an in-depth training and roundtable discussion that I recently led for the Business Miracles Community of Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, where I taught practical ways for moving out of coping and into creating, even in the darkness.
If you sense that you too would benefit from real-time, energetic support in an aligned community, as well as tangible actions that can be implemented immediately to create acceleration through the places where you get stuck, I invite you to click here to speak to a Business Miracles Enrollment Coach, who will help you get clear on whether Highly Sensitive Leadership Training is the best next step for you at this time.
There’s a transformational process that I teach in the Business Miracles Highly Sensitive Leadership Training programs called A-U-K (Awareness-Understanding-Knowing).
AUK is the path to lasting transformation. The path we must go through in order to experience and accelerate true change.
The first phase is… Awareness. We recognize that we want something to be different.
The second phase is… Understanding. We intellectually understand that we need to do something different to get a different result.
An example most people can relate to is “losing weight”. We understand that we need to eat differently, but actually doing what we understand we need to do is a whole other situation.
Which leads us to the third phase… Knowing. True change that can only come from consciously changing our behavior – over and over. And over.
The key is in our willingness to consistently make the choices and to take the actions. Over. And over. And over again.
That’s when true transformation occurs.
Choice. Action. Choice. Action.
And that is when we get to have a different experience. ✨
IN FAITH, Heather
P.S. If you want to learn how the AUK process can help you move out of resistance, while also no longer being beholden to your Highly Sensitive triggers, I encourage you to listen in to Episode 93 of my podcast.
OH. MY. GOSH. As if 2020 didn’t deliver enough, 2021 came in with a bang and brought me closer to the edge of my Highly Sensitive Coping Mechanism of Pushing than I’ve been in a very, VERY long time.
I’m happy to say that I didn’t go over that edge and, along with the Business Miracles Community of Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, we continue to lean on each other and the work to excel through these times.
Soooo … here’s a bit of what I’ve been reading, watching, listening to (and tools I’m using, too) to help keep myself steady and still moving forward through these times without totally losing it. Here’s where I’m at this month…
Here’s what I JUST realized this past month; I can’t just read books the way I could pre-pandemic. Which is sad because I love novel escapism, but right now it doesn’t bring me the pleasure it once did. I need shorter bursts like articles, short stories, movies or videos. I know it won’t be forever, but this is where I need to be right now. Here are a few that have really impacted me:
1. My Body, Myself: An Unexpected Journey Out of Grief by Jessica Granger (October Vogue – yes, I am also behind in subscriptions) – This is perhaps one of the best pieces I’ve ever read on grief. And I’ve read A LOT. Being that we are all experiencing collective trauma and loss right now in some shape or form, I highly recommend this beautiful read.
2. Embrace These Four Lessons From Martin Luther King Jr. by Sonia Thompson (Inc. Magazine) – What struck me most about this article is not so much the recommendations (although valuable), but the reminder of how young he was when he did what he did. Now, more than ever, we are reminded that we do not have the time to wait before we act or before we lead. There is no someday or arrival point that will suddenly deem you worthy. The time is now. In all of its glorious imperfection.
Full Disclosure (or as I share in my teachings, V&V Energy): most items listed here are period dramas and I fully recognize and own the desire to escape from the current time we are living in, even if just for 52 minutes.
1. Bridgerton(Netflix) – Creative, risqué, steamy, challenging, pure escapism.
2.Belgravia (Epix) – I am such a fan of actress Tamsin Greig, so I was won over before it even started: engaging, above and beyond well-acted, beautiful, pure escapism.
4.Soul(Disney+) – This is a throwback to December and NOT a period drama, but what I declare as one of the best Pixar productions by far. My Sweetheart Husband and I watched it during end of year holiday time and it was just perfect. It’s groundbreaking, forward thinking, touching, creative, heart-warming, inspiring and hopeful.
1.Unlocking Us Podcast, Brene Brown with Gabby Rivera on Superheroes, Storytelling, and Joy as Resistance(Spotify) – I loved this particular episode because, first of all, I am not a superhero kind of gal, so I don’t know if I would have known of author, artist and activist Gabby Rivera otherwise. I’m pretty sure she is highly sensitive, and she is also one, gosh-darn-inspiring and resilient woman. If you’re starting to slip into any sense of “I don’t know how much longer I can do this” (and aren’t we all these days?), take a listen; be inspired; and get your soul shored up for at least the next month or so by her story.
1.Business Miracles Podcast / HSE Features(iTunes and other places) – I don’t really like listening to myself per se, but recently I’ve been on a kick of re-listening to the episodes when I interview Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur members of the Business Miracles Community. The love I have for the members I am honored to serve runs so, so deep. Every day I am inspired by these Highly Sensitive Leaders who show up over and over in their commitment to doing the “real work” of true transformation (and re-commitment, when needed). I am inspired and bow to them every day in awe in gratitude. Take a listen. I sense you’ll feel the same.
Hope you find something useful (or just plain fun) in these recommendations to support yourself with keeping it all moving forward during these Exceptional Times as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur and Leader.
I’d love to hear what you’re reading, watching and listening to as well, as I’m always open to being introduced to something new and will happily give you credit if it’s something I end up latching onto. Just hit “reply” and let me know. 🙂
We will continue to transcend these times – together.
Fear is never the best force to use to drive your life, your business or your relationships forward…
Fear of what you’ll lose. Fear of who you’ll have to be. Fear of what others will say or think. Fear of disappointing not only those you love, but also those you don’t even know. Fear of whether you’re doing it right or wrong. Fear there won’t be enough. Fear that YOU are not enough.
All forms of fear are unreliable antennas for which direction you’re meant to go next.
Mostly because fear blocks your intuition.
And your intuition is one of your greatest Highly Sensitive Strengths.
Very often I hear Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders say to me that they can’t do something because their intuition says so. This “unreasonable reason” of why they can’t do something reeks of fear and resistance. So, whenever I hear this, I know they have lost their way.
Your intuition will pull you forward (while also going against all logic most of the time) but it will never shut you down or hold you back.
IN FAITH, Heather
PS. If you’re ready to move out of fear and into the freedom of leading with your Highly Sensitive Strengths so you can create a more positive social impact in your life and relationships, and more sustainable income in your business or career, I would love to offer my Daily Activations Tool as a resource to support you.
These activations will support you – in only 10 minutes a day – to stay calm, grounded, focused and poised to create more of what you want. Click here for access.
Today on A Course In Business Miracles, we are thinking about the Good-Enough Business. I recently read a New York Times article defining The Good-Enough Life and it got me thinking about the what this means in our businesses as HSEs. What does it mean to be good enough? How can we apply this to our businesses?
Learn how to handle self-shame in your work as an HSE and what a business that is good enough looks like.
I want to share with you a story about a woman called Thecla – a woman who stuck to her courage of conviction regardless of others attempts to break her down and silence her.
As I was reading Thecla’s story, there was one line in particular that really stuck out to me. By using her voice, she gave other women permission to use theirs.
WOW. Now that is a powerful legacy.
By freeing her voice, she freed the voice of many.
As Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, using our voice to express ourselves is a direct path to true freedom and to being able to positively effect change.
We are each being called to RISE UP to serve like never before and to lead differently as a result of these times we are graced to be experiencing – together.
If you sense that you’re meant to join with others and dive into a deep training process to position yourself to effectively use your voice to create what you want and to fulfill your purpose in your business and life as a highly sensitive, then I invite you to click here to speak to a Business Miracles Enrollment Coach, who will help you get clear on whether this is the best next step for you at this time.
By freeing your voice, you can free the voice of many, in whatever way that is meant to look for you.
Today on A Course In Business Miracles, we are featuring Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur Nikki Kourpias, founder and instructor at Aware Hot Yoga in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. Nikki had suspected for years that she was different than other people in a really fundamental way. After years of searching for a diagnosis to try and figure out what was wrong (and how to fix it), she finally stumbled on the Business Miracles community, and she has been part of it ever since.
Since joining, Nikki has rediscovered her Highly Sensitive strengths that were being underutilized or misunderstood in her business. With these, she has found a new sense of security and freedom in her work, allowing her to open a yoga studio in the midst of a pandemic.
Learn how Nikki Kourpias discovered her Highly Sensitive nature and turned what she thought were defects in her life into her most important strengths.
Typically as we enter into a new year, there is a slew of resolutions that are set.
We hear people — and the Global Pandemic doesn’t seem to have changed this much — stating their New Year’s Resolutions and these resolutions often have to do with the body.
I’m going to lose weight.
I’m going to make more money.
I’m going to take better care of myself.
I’m going to exercise.
I find the process so fascinating because a resolution is an act of the mind, but the focus of the resolution — for most people — is on the body.
So then, typically, the resolution gets lost by February 1st, if not sooner.
But what if we Do Things Differently this year?
What would it look like if we set New Year Intentions that were focused on the mind, where the real change and healing happens?
What miracles might we experience if, instead of focusing on the body, we commit to intentionally using our minds as a consistent core practice — whether that be through meditation, journaling, energy management or any other form of consistently engaging your mind.
If you really want to support yourself with beginning anew in this new year, make a commitment to consistently and intentionally exercise your mind and watch the MIRACLES of expansion and healing that happen as a result. ✨✨
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