A long, long time ago during my first year of being self-employed, I was walking through Union Square in NYC when a woman handed me a piece of paper the size of a fortune you find inside your Chinese food cookie.
On this piece of paper were written the words: “Do you know The Secret?” and then a url.
I was intrigued. I kept the paper and brought it home with me.
Later my Sweetheart Husband, Stephen (who was not yet my Husband at the time) came home with the same piece of paper.
So, we logged onto the computer to see what the mystery was all about.
If you haven’t yet figured it out, this was the start to what later became the world-wide movie phenomena, “The Secret”. (As a side note, brilliant original grassroots marketing campaign)
I must have watched that movie a billion times.
It became part of my self-employed morning routine and for sure played a significant part in keeping me from going crazy with terror during that tumultuous time.
And this is just one example of all the ways I’ve consistently dedicated myself to the Core Practice of re-training my energy and mind over the last 15 years since.
Today on this HSE Feature on A Course In Business Miracles, we have Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur Interior Designer Mindy Wagner. Before acknowledging her Highly Sensitive nature, Mindy was working for much less than she should have been and for way too many clients, burning herself out regularly and having to turn to coping mechanisms to deal with her daily life.
Listen in to hear about how she went from having an overloaded schedule with too many clients at rates that were too low to now working with one or two ideal clients with much higher rates and more time to truly share her gifts and talents. I’m so excited for you to hear from Mindy on this episode!
The fundamental teaching of A Course In Miracles is, “There is another way”.
So, therefore, the fundamental teaching of A Course In BUSINESS Miracles is, “There is another way”.
It’s this teaching that is the Golden Key for us Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs.
Most HSEs abhor all the loud, clamoring in-your-face internet marketing that’s currently choking practically every energetic current running right now.
So, then the HSE tends to just run and hide busying themselves with laundry and such and wondering why they don’t have any clients …
OR – the HSE white-knuckles to push and make this whole marketing thing happen joining all the other internet noise and wondering why they’re exhausted without enough money or clients to show for their efforts …
One of the most pervasive HSE Shadows is – Over-Responsibility, which is a bit of a trickster energy that you really have to watch out for …
It dovetails into People-Pleasing, can be goaded by the “Good Girl” Archetype and loves to swing dance with the “Martyr”, too.
All which make creating prosperity pretty difficult.
It can be easy to say that the way through this Shadow is BOUNDARIES, which is true, but it’s actually about so much more than that.
Because “boundaries” can turn into rigid righteousness (read UN-client attractive) and what I refer to in my Money Mindset Training as the Entitled Queen.
The Entitled Queen believes she’s always in the right (often in the name of Spirit/Source/God), but has immense difficulty with taking personal responsibility, being humble and graciously expressing appreciation.
The rigid, righteous, Entitled Queen is downright difficult to be around (again, read UN-client attractive).
So, then what is the way through the HSE Shadow of Over-Responsibility?
It’s not just about setting boundaries, choosing your “yes” and “no” or recognizing that not everyone’s energy is yours.
It’s about HOW you go about all of it.
Now, that’s a path to master as an HSE, but the willingness to walk it brings you to a whole new level of peace, true power and prosperity.
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Many highly sensitives feel out of control and like a victim to their sensitive nature so they search for ways to be able to simply cope, soothe and make it through to the end of each day without feeling the overwhelming onslaught of our overstimulating 21st Century world. However, as a highly sensitive who has chosen to be self-employed it’s important that you learn how to go beyond coping with the act and art of creating because that’s what entrepreneurism is: CREATION.
The way to do this is with the tool I’ve created called the RAINS Process. Listen in and learn how to transform your experience from merely coping and getting by into the HSE Strength of Creativity and your next level of business success.
Selling is the number one skill needed in order to be able to succeed as an entrepreneur – and this, of course, includes if you’re highly sensitive.
And – wow – is this the primary area that so many Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs) struggle with. They look at it, approach it, and then even talk about it like it’s the dark tomb filled with snakes from the movie Indiana Jones.
It’s why most HSEs under charge or don’t charge at all for their service and then wonder why they don’t have enough (or any) money.
When you’re in this “under charge or don’t charge at all” place then there’s no reason for you to need to avoid, hide, push through, take on energy that’s not yours or even get triggered by another person stuff. You’re “safe” (as in – false safe).
Being a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE) is a calling; no doubt about it. Why else would those of us who are highly sensitive put ourselves on a path that’s going to challenge everything that our Over-protective mind would have us avoid?
The only explanation is a universal pull, literally calling, cajoling us forward into the most amazing growth experience ever available in this lifetime.
If you ignore it then it’s as annoying as a phone that won’t stop ringing.
If you answer it, you are transformed forever and I mean FOR-EV-ER; as in like lifetimes transformed.
As I remind myself and my Business Miracles Mentoring Program Members every day, the choice is always yours.
The power of a supportive community cannot be overstated, especially for HSEs. When dealing with traumatic experiences, we tend to want to analyze the situation and withdraw from others, “knowing” that we can handle it ourselves. But little do we know that the real healing comes not from ourselves, but from sharing these experiences with each other.
In Bonnie Badenoch’s book, “The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships”, she writes, “trauma arises more from our sense of being alone with our pain and fear, rather than the actual event itself.”. There is a surprising way to move through your HSE Coping Mechanism into a place of healing and increased prosperity (and it’s not about using your head!)
There are two “P” words that can tend to throw a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE) into a bit of a tizzy (and I led an in-person Training Retreat for about 100 HSEs where I really focused in on these …)
“Patience” can annoy the heck out of an HSE when their Visionary Strength has gone to the Entitled Queen dark side and just because the HSE has the ability to see their vision the HSEs Shadow expects to have it all now.
So when the HSE realizes that the only way to that Vision is step-by-patient-step it can feel frustrating.
Which leads us to “Persistence”. Now, this can confuse the heck out of an HSE who hasn’t learned how to manage her HSE Coping Mechanism.
The Pusher thinks “Persistence” can only mean pushing harder and The Hider thinks “Persistence” means massive overwhelm; all the more reason to hide.
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