I’ve shared a lot about the deepening of the fierce commitment I have to doing things differently and operating differently to counteract the trend of fear, especially during these Exceptional Times as highly sensitive people.
Now more than ever, as Highly Sensitives, we have to rise above absorbing and operating from fear, guilt and shame.
That’s easier said than done. We are all human. We all have habits and patterns that we’ve been operating from and playing out for a lifetime.
We are living through a global pandemic. There are hundreds of thousands of people, right now, in the US who are out of work and who do not know at this moment right now how they will continue to put food on the table for their families.
And not one of us knows what that actually means.
We can pretend we know. We can engage in our denial, rationalization and coping to try to tell ourselves that we are going to know what’s going to happen through 2021, but the truth is is that not one of us knows.
The best thing that we can do is to lead with the value of energy for the long term payoff.
For me, and for the Business Miracles Team and Mission, this has always been a driving force. Longterm work. Longterm relationships. Longterm payoff. For everyone.
As part of that, we recognize that we are so very fortunate to be doing the work that we do in the way that we do it, especially through these Exceptional Times as highly sensitive people.
That doesn’t mean that we deprive ourselves from what we are fortunate to have because other’s do not have it. What it does mean is that we have a level of consciousness and therefore gratitude and therefore grace – with all the ways we are privileged to be able to step up and serve through this historical time.
By leading with the energy of love and healing to counteract the trend of fear, guilt and shame, by continuing to operate from the heart and staying with our mission – from our place of privilege – we CAN contribute and create betterment. ❤️
I am so happy to be featuring Geri Deane as a member of the Business Miracles Community and as a successful Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur and leader. Geri, along with being a valued member of the Business Miracles Community, is a residential Real Estate Consultant assisting buyers, sellers, and tenants; both locally, and globally, to support people who are looking to buy, sell, or rent their dream home, in Virginia or around the world, and who may be experiencing a major life transition.
They desire to partner with a real estate consultant they can trust, and who will respect them, listen deeply to their needs, and powerfully guide them every step of the way. And as a result of their time of Geri, they will feel calm and confident that their real estate transaction was handled in both a personal and professional way. Geri now focuses on her uniqueness rather than comparing herself to others, and in just one year, her gross income is now 100% over where it was last year, even during a pandemic. Which is AMAZING!
Listen in to hear how Geri has embraced her Highly Sensitive nature and changed everything about how she operates her business and lives her life.
In the beginning of summer 2020, it became very clear to me that COVID was not the only pandemic brutalizing the United States (and many other countries).
A different type of pandemic – one that has had its hold for centuries, especially in the US, – has been brought out of hiding due to the outrage towards racial injustice, police brutality and a seeming disregard for Black Lives.
As I openly and vulnerably shared in the beginning of the summer, it was also very clear to me that my curriculum of A Course In Business Miracles did not address racism or diversity – but I had not yet taken action beyond this awareness. Instead, I was using my highly sensitive nature as a reason to be satisfied with awareness vs. taking action in this area of my professional life.
At that time, I committed to Doing Things Differently.
I didn’t know what this would look like, but I was willing to show up and discover the way, step by step because:
1) this is how we do things best as highly sensitives, and
2) the mark of effective leadership is not needing to know all the answers before taking action, but simply the willingness to be in action from a place of purpose, education and intention.
HERE’S WHAT HAPPENED:
Together, long term Business Miracles member (and my former high school student), Regine Roy, CEO of Queen Geniuses, Inc., and I created The Anti-Racist Courageous Conversation Series to educate and train the members of the Business Miracles Community, all Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, on how to effectively engage in this movement longterm – in a way that works for us as highly sensitive.
Being a Highly Sensitive Leader through these Exceptional Times includes rising up to meet the opportunity that the Racial Justice Movement of 2020 is bringing to each one of us.
I invite you to join us in our commitment to Awareness and Action by using your voice – in whatever way that is meant to look for you – bringing truth and love into the difficult conversations that are happening about racism, racial justice and equality.
You can start by simply exploring the resources below:
19 years ago today I had just started a new job teaching drama in a NYC public high school when, from my 9th floor classroom window, I saw the biggest cloud of black smoke I’d ever seen roll across the sky and the world changed forever.
How do you respond when your city is burning and you don’t know if another attack will come – when you find yourself face to face with the unknown?
Fast forward to 2020 when again, my beloved city – along with the entire world – is under siege from a different kind of terrorism, in the forms of a global pandemic and a war for racial justice.
One thing I learned in 2001 that has definitely been confirmed over and over again in these Exceptional Times, is that times of intensity present us with an opportunity.
An opportunity for growth.
An opportunity to embrace our highly sensitive nature and use our Highly Sensitive Strengths to stay calm and grounded, to remain strong and steady – even in the midst of the tumultuous noise of a broken world that desperately needs healing.
An opportunity to Do Things Differently.
My life and work have traveled far over these past 19 years and I’m so grateful for every breath and every step I’ve been so fortunate to take.
Today, I invite you to join me in remembering and honoring those, who on 9/11/01, had this fortune taken from them.
If you are anything like me, you have lived most of your life under the tyranny of that voice in your head. Replaying your past mistakes every night, making you afraid to mess up out of fear of ridicule, seemingly forcing you into coping mechanisms you can’t escape. But what if you could flip a switch and _use_ that voice? Not to keep you down, but to help bring you up and be stronger and better than you were before?
Today on A Course In Business Miracles, we’re talking about the superego voice and how you can flip that switch from believing the inner voice at face value to seeing the truth that lies beneath. And once you flip that switch, there’s no going back, and you’ll never want to!
I’ve been asked a lot during these Exceptional Times of 2020 how I’m staying sane, remaining grounded, continuing to gracefully lead my Community of Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders from around the world to continue to excel for themselves while overall just keeping my sh*zzzz together as I face some major personal life changes as result of these times as well.
Soooo … I thought it would be fun to share on the first Friday of each month what I’m reading, watching, listening to (and tools I’m using, too) to keep myself moving forward through these times. Here’s where I’m at this month…
1. The Neapolitan Novels Boxed Set by, Elena Ferrante (Amazon – or check your local bookstore first!) –Honestly, I haven’t started reading even one page of these four Italian novels, but I’m excited to dive in. I’d heard about this series a while ago, but just hadn’t gotten around to it. Everyone I’ve talked to RAVES about this author (she’s also known to be very mysterious and her English translator has never even spoken a word to her in person, let alone ever met her, which I love! I’m always intrigued by someone who dares to refuse the spotlight :)) Next month I’ll let you know if I’ve “joined the club”, and if you start reading too, then we can compare notes!
3. ‘Bill & Ted’ Explained by Gen X to Gen Z by, Azi Paybarah, Johnny Diaz, Christina Morales and Bryan Pietsch (NY Times) – Oh. My. Gosh. Ok, full transparency – I’ve never even seen the movie “Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure”, but this article is just such a fun (and funny) demonstration of the difference between generations, and since one of my clients and I were just talking about how to work with clients from varying generations during a VIP Day Session, this article caught my eye. I’m so glad it did! My favorite line:
“Bryan: My third grade classroom had an out-of-order telephone booth that we would hang out in for silent reading time, but I’ve never used one to make a call. People still did that in the early 90s?”
1. Schitt’s Creek (Netflix) – I am now watching this entire series for the second time – in a row! And I never, ever do that. My friend, Alexandra, told me about this months ago (pre-pandemic) and I did not heed her recommendation and then my friend Shira said it was a must watch, so with the nudge of two people I trust, I tuned in, stayed with it through the first episode and fell DEEP into obsession.
I think there is a reason this series spoke to me more mid-pandemic vs. pre-pandemic and here’s why: the story’s essence is about a family who experiences sudden, unexpected change that forces them to navigate living in a “new world” in a new way which includes them having to live more closely together than they’ve ever had to before. Sound familiar?
And I love how these characters change because of these circumstances, while also simultaneously and unabashedly never caving to the temptation to “change in order to fit in” but instead, remain true to their uniqueness – which includes very personal fashion choices for each of them. #LOVE.
1. Faith, by George Michael (Spotify) – I am both aging and outing myself here as a definite child and lover of pop 80’s. I don’t know exactly why I’ve been redrawn to listen to this album that I privately loved as a teen (while everyone else in my high school was listening to Eric Clapton and The Grateful Dead). Maybe it’s because my teen self who had just lost her mom could really connect with the secret sorrow that threads through each song (years later we all learned why) and now that same thread in many ways weaves through these Exceptional Times.
I’m sharing this again because due to scheduling, I had to miss leading this live, free call for two weeks and – WOW – I really missed it. We are back to our weekly, consistent schedule starting Monday September 14th, 2020 at 11:00am, EASTERN.
I continue to receive extremely positive feedback from Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders who are tuning in from all corners of the globe: Ireland, Chile, Nigeria, Saudi Arabia, Alaska, Hawaii and everywhere in between. I highly recommend you join us and watch how you, your work and your life change for the better as a result.
Hope you find something useful (or just plain fun) in these recommendations to support yourself with keeping it all moving forward during these Exceptional Times as a Highly Sensitive Leader.
I’d love to hear what you’re reading, watching and listening to as well; I’m always open to being introduced to something new and will happily give you credit if it’s something I end up latching onto. Just comment below and let me know. 🙂
We will continue to transcend these times – together.
I’m still reverberating from a shockingly sensational week of Virtual Team Planning with the Business Miracles Team as Highly Sensitive Leaders.
One of the things we got very clear on as a team is that, as we head into the next 12 months, we are meant to lead from ENERGY as our top value as opposed to time and/or money.
After having that conversation with my team, I was scrolling through Instagram and a post popped up from a coach that I do not follow.
As I was reading through the post, I noticed the typical coaching industry story of “I came from nothing, built a million dollar business, and if you join this club, you will have a million dollar business too.”
Reading through the post, I found myself feeling a flicker of an old tendency to slip into “social media comparison”.
And I had a moment where I was like, oh, maybe this whole leading with Energy, leading with love thing … maybe this just isn’t the way to go.
However, as I continued reading, I also became very aware that the steps and recommendations were so formulaic – as has been taught by the coaching and internet marketing industry for the last 20 years:
1) your success 2) how you got this success in 3 to 5 steps 3) a call to action to join so you can have what I have.
Well, one of those steps included: Stop Doing Laundry
And in reading those 3 words, I was brought back to a mastermind from about 15 years ago where a coach I was working with told me to Stop Doing Laundry.
I remember saying, but I really love folding laundry, and it turned into this whole big coaching thing (aka lecture) about how, if you’re folding laundry, you’re using time that could be used to make money and you need to hire someone to fold your laundry.
Flash forward 15 years and these are literally the exact words I’m reading in this post.
It was such a great reminder that regurgitated, formulaic coaching doesn’t hold weight anymore.
There are literally hundreds of thousands of people who cannot put food on their tables right now.
To be delivering a message that you can make a million dollars if you stop folding your own laundry is not only mismatched for these Exceptional Times, but inappropriate and out of alignment.
Yes, there will absolutely be people who will still buy into that marketing. 100%.
But what COVID and the global events of the last 6 months have confirmed for me over and over, is that we must do things differently, and for me, this was more confirmation that the bottom is going to drop out of this type of marketing.
This old, worn way of fear based marketing – “if you continue to fold your laundry, you are never going to be successful” – just doesn’t work anymore, and especially for highly sensitives.
There is not just one formulaic outcome of what it means to fold the laundry.
As I shared this with my team, I remembered WHY I love folding laundry:
1) It’s meditative for me. 2) I receive creative and inspired ideas when I’m folding laundry, in the same way that I get creative and inspired ideas when I’m taking a bath or taking a walk.
As Highly Sensitive Leaders who lead from Energy and Love, we are here to be ahead of the curve by counteracting the trend of fear-based marketing.
As a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur and/or Leader, not only can you lead and create from your strengths, a place of love and your authentic self, but by doing so, you can and WILL be of high service to those you are meant to serve, both in and out of business.
You get to choose all of the ways you’re meant to creatively “fold the laundry”. 😉
If there is one necessary skill you will need to survive the pandemic of 2020 as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur or Leader it is learning how to manage overwhelm.
Since this is one of the dominant Highly Sensitive Shadows it impacts everything in a Highly Sensitive’s life and business: relationships, marketing, vision, next level growth … you name it.
And here’s the real jiggy – it never goes away.
And that’s what gets most Highly Sensitives in trouble.
When it comes to overwhelm, untrainedHighly Sensitives try to control it, stuff it, jam it, kick-box it, curse it, slam it, avoid it, pretty it, ignore it, and yet – there it still is.
Which only makes sense because the highly sensitive nervous system is wired to react to over-stimulation. And I think we can agree that these Exceptional Times of 2020, with its global pandemic and the ever growing racial unrest has been a constant source of over-stimulation.
BUT (and here’s the survival skill part) you CAN change your relationship to overwhelm.
And this is what I teach the members of my Highly Sensitive Leadership Training Programs to do.
Now, here’s the second real jiggy – with every next level you grow to as you step deeper into your Highly Sensitive Strengths, you will need to change your relationship to overwhelm.
It’s not like you learn how to manage overwhelm and then you’re the overwhelm zen master of all time.
Every new level of personal and/or business growth is going to give you a whole new level of learning when it comes to managing overwhelm – every. time.
This is what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Leader in your business and your life and as long as you’re willing to accept that this is the ride you’re on then you’re good!
Of course, you want toget some solid training and mentoring support in place for the whole ride as well – for sanity sake and for speeding through those moments when you want to throw in the towel.
In Faith, XO. Heather
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A highly sensitive symptom I’ve mentored many highly sensitive person entrepreneurs and leaders through is: Confusion.
Or the other side of this golden coin: Clarity.
Clarity meaning, “What do you need?”
What do you need to be able to operate optimally as a person who is highly sensitive?
What do you need to be able to show up in your work and your life from your highly sensitive strengths, such as intuition and empathy, even when (or especially when) challenged?
What do you need in order for you to be able to create your life rather than just cope your way through life?
According to researcher Dr. Elaine Aron, 20% of the global population is born highly sensitive. Therefore, just by probability, what you need is going to be different than the needs of those around you who are not highly sensitive. So, how do you navigate that? How do you manage that? How do you unapologetically own that so you then can be in a position to use your unique nature to lead?
A tool I’ve been teaching highly sensitive person entrepreneurs and leaders for years to support with this process is what I refer to as The Order Form to The Universe. This process supports you with separating feelings from actions as well as untangling your needs from the needs of those around you all while leading you to clarity about the next, divine, right inspired action that you’re meant to take to move you in the direction of what you are now able to understand you desire.
Pretty good, huh? 🙂
You can download it here for free and I highly recommend that you do this for yourself because not only is confusion a common highly sensitive symptom, but it’s one that’s massively exacerbated for us in the midst of these most globally confusing times.
Yet, you do not need to be a victim to your circumstances you can choose to take charge, hone the responses of your nervous system and then be equipped to step forward and lead through and beyond these Exceptional Times.
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