As a Highly Sensitive, I would much rather be working quietly in the corner than in front of the camera, and if you’re reading this, my sense is that you can probably relate.
However, I’ve definitely learned over the years to pay attention to my Highly Sensitive Strength of Intuition.
At the same time, I’ve been hearing from the Highly Sensitives in the Business Miracles Community what I’ve been teaching and training on in regards to Highly Sensitive Leadership through these Exceptional Times has been super supportive, and they’ve asked if I would share in a larger way.
So here I am, a Super Uber Highly Sensitive, posting videos on social media – all to support Highly Sensitive Leaders to step into a new level of leadership that’s very much needed in the world right now.
I received some amazing responses after posting my first video asking what makes a Highly Sensitive Leader, AND I also got a few private messages asking me about a phrase that I used at the end of that video when I said, “This Global pandemic has shown us that there is no longer room for ‘pretty marketing’.”
As I read through several messages asking “Heather what did you mean when you said pretty marketing?”, it made me think of a friend that I had in Graduate School.
Any time she didn’t like how things were going, her response was always:
Taller Blonder Thinner
As someone who happens to be shorter, browner, and curvier, that tells you a lot about where myself esteem was in grad school, but it also shows how, pre-pandemic, all of us played a part in valuing “pretty marketing” – believing that taller, blonder and thinner meant better.
“If someone has a lot of shoes that must mean that they are good at what they do.”
“If someone lives in a really big house that must mean that they’re the best coach.”
As a result of this Global Pandemic, we are being called as Highly Sensitive Leaders to change this conversation.
What would you be able to do differently if you gave just as much value to your intuition as you gave pre-pandemic to pretty marketing?
What would you be able to create by valuing intuition over influence? Take a moment to answer this question for yourself. No right, no wrong, no judgement.
Stay tuned! On the next video I will teach you how to take your response and turn it into what I am calling Legacy Messaging, which is truly going to change how you show up as a Highly Sensitive Leader, whether that be at the dinner table conversation, in your business and marketing, leading in the board room or anywhere else that you are meant to show up as a Highly Sensitive Leader who uses your strengths to excel in Business and Life by doing things differently.
On today’s episode of the Business Miracles podcast, we have special guest Susie Procini as an HSE Feature! Susie Procini has been a mainstay here at A Course In Business Miracles for the last four years and her transformation has been profound since she started in our program.
When she came in, her business wasn’t going anywhere. Literally. Not even at a snail’s pace, but nowhere. She was constantly overwhelmed and overused, and at the same time, her HSE Strengths were undernourished and underutilized. She was ready for a change, and change she has!
In these tumultuous and uncertain times how do you speak your truth (with grace, compassion and kindness) as a Highly Sensitive Leader while also maintaining important relationships, especially if the other person happens to disagree with what you believe to be true?
Although it may seem counter-intuitive, the way to lead is to being willing to have difficult conversations.
We tend to avoid difficult conversations as a Highly Sensitive Leader because, well, we believe they are going to be difficult! And the meaning we’ve given to “difficult” is that as a highly sensitive it will too overwhelming and we won’t be able to handle it.
However, difficult conversations are possible as a highly sensitive when you’ve learned how to regulate your emotions.
The way we do that according to the Harvard Health Report is through appreciation, affliction and autonomy.
Appreciation, is to either approach any intentional difficult conversation with appreciation, and/or to reach for appreciation, when we find ourselves suddenly in the midst of a difficult conversation, that we perhaps were not anticipating.
Affliction, is the recognition that any difficult conversation, is not happening in a vacuum. It is not up to you and only you. There are two or more people involved, in a difficult conversation.
Autonomy, is about communication, and not making decisions that involve someone else, without them knowing about it. That includes assumptions about how you believe they will respond, or react to a request.
By consciously deciding to master difficult conversations, and consistently having them, you will experience more peace and success in your relationships, allowing navigating these Exceptional Times with grace and integrity to be a heck of a lot easier.
And at the same time you are retraining your highly sensitive nervous system and your mindset to become more and more comfortable with difficult conversations, so what seems challenging now will have little to no triggering effect on you a year from now = massive freedom.
And you can create ANYTHING you want from a foundation of freedom. ✨✨
I’ve been doing a lot of reading and reflecting on the idea that this global pandemic seems to be, in my opinion, a giant planetary experiment on how we humans handle change.
And overall, we don’t seem to be doing so well; we are not handling change masterfully.
It seems that the majority of the global population is averse to adaptation and innovation – rubber banding and trying to run back to how it was pre-pandemic, and at a high global community cost.
Many are pushing to have life return to “normal” or using the pandemic as a reason why they cannot be who they want to be and create what they want to have.
Personally, I refuse to live in denial or to be a victim.
I deeply know, and have known since the beginning of the pandemic, that I am and have always been meant to Rise Up during these Exceptional Times as an innovator.
I recognize that a quickening has occurred and there is an awakening – an opportunity to inquire, to look deep within to make intentional decisions to do things differently going forward.
I am committed to living as an innovator and to leading the Business Miracles Team and Community from this place of powerful presence.
The path of innovation as a Highly Sensitive Leader requires us to accept the challenge of change and ground our nervous system so that we have access to creative solutions.
Because of this fierce commitment, members within the Business Miracles Community are continuing to Rise up, pivoting their businesses and creatively serving their clients by using Community, Core Practice and Consistency to attract income that even before the pandemic seemed impossible. ✨✨ BUSINESS MIRACLES! ✨✨
As highly sensitives we are each being called to RISE UP to serve like never before and to lead differently as a result of these times we are graced to be experiencing – together.
If you sense that you’re meant to join with others and dive into a deep training process to position yourself as the leader you’re meant to be in your work and life as a highly sensitive, then I invite you to click here to speak to a Business Miracles Enrollment Coach, for coaching for the highly sensitive person, who will help you get clear on whether this is the best next step for you at this time.
Today on A Course In Business Miracles, I’m so happy to share what I refer to as the AUK process: a process of transformation I teach to the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and leading members of my business miracles community. Anyone who listens to A Course In Business Miracles knows how much I love this process and what it can do for those who use it in their business.
The acronym stands for Awareness, Understanding, Knowing, and in this podcast, I take this process one step further. You will now learn how the AUK process can help you move out of resistance, while also no longer being beholden to your Highly Sensitive triggers. Let’s dive in!
I’ve shared a lot about the deepening of the fierce commitment I have to doing things differently and operating differently to counteract the trend of fear, especially during these Exceptional Times as highly sensitive people.
Now more than ever, as Highly Sensitives, we have to rise above absorbing and operating from fear, guilt and shame.
That’s easier said than done. We are all human. We all have habits and patterns that we’ve been operating from and playing out for a lifetime.
We are living through a global pandemic. There are hundreds of thousands of people, right now, in the US who are out of work and who do not know at this moment right now how they will continue to put food on the table for their families.
And not one of us knows what that actually means.
We can pretend we know. We can engage in our denial, rationalization and coping to try to tell ourselves that we are going to know what’s going to happen through 2021, but the truth is is that not one of us knows.
The best thing that we can do is to lead with the value of energy for the long term payoff.
For me, and for the Business Miracles Team and Mission, this has always been a driving force. Longterm work. Longterm relationships. Longterm payoff. For everyone.
As part of that, we recognize that we are so very fortunate to be doing the work that we do in the way that we do it, especially through these Exceptional Times as highly sensitive people.
That doesn’t mean that we deprive ourselves from what we are fortunate to have because other’s do not have it. What it does mean is that we have a level of consciousness and therefore gratitude and therefore grace – with all the ways we are privileged to be able to step up and serve through this historical time.
By leading with the energy of love and healing to counteract the trend of fear, guilt and shame, by continuing to operate from the heart and staying with our mission – from our place of privilege – we CAN contribute and create betterment. ❤️
I am so happy to be featuring Geri Deane as a member of the Business Miracles Community and as a successful Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur and leader. Geri, along with being a valued member of the Business Miracles Community, is a residential Real Estate Consultant assisting buyers, sellers, and tenants; both locally, and globally, to support people who are looking to buy, sell, or rent their dream home, in Virginia or around the world, and who may be experiencing a major life transition.
They desire to partner with a real estate consultant they can trust, and who will respect them, listen deeply to their needs, and powerfully guide them every step of the way. And as a result of their time of Geri, they will feel calm and confident that their real estate transaction was handled in both a personal and professional way. Geri now focuses on her uniqueness rather than comparing herself to others, and in just one year, her gross income is now 100% over where it was last year, even during a pandemic. Which is AMAZING!
Listen in to hear how Geri has embraced her Highly Sensitive nature and changed everything about how she operates her business and lives her life.
In the beginning of summer 2020, it became very clear to me that COVID was not the only pandemic brutalizing the United States (and many other countries).
A different type of pandemic – one that has had its hold for centuries, especially in the US, – has been brought out of hiding due to the outrage towards racial injustice, police brutality and a seeming disregard for Black Lives.
As I openly and vulnerably shared in the beginning of the summer, it was also very clear to me that my curriculum of A Course In Business Miracles did not address racism or diversity – but I had not yet taken action beyond this awareness. Instead, I was using my highly sensitive nature as a reason to be satisfied with awareness vs. taking action in this area of my professional life.
At that time, I committed to Doing Things Differently.
I didn’t know what this would look like, but I was willing to show up and discover the way, step by step because:
1) this is how we do things best as highly sensitives, and
2) the mark of effective leadership is not needing to know all the answers before taking action, but simply the willingness to be in action from a place of purpose, education and intention.
HERE’S WHAT HAPPENED:
Together, long term Business Miracles member (and my former high school student), Regine Roy, CEO of Queen Geniuses, Inc., and I created The Anti-Racist Courageous Conversation Series to educate and train the members of the Business Miracles Community, all Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs and Leaders, on how to effectively engage in this movement longterm – in a way that works for us as highly sensitive.
Being a Highly Sensitive Leader through these Exceptional Times includes rising up to meet the opportunity that the Racial Justice Movement of 2020 is bringing to each one of us.
I invite you to join us in our commitment to Awareness and Action by using your voice – in whatever way that is meant to look for you – bringing truth and love into the difficult conversations that are happening about racism, racial justice and equality.
You can start by simply exploring the resources below:
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