October 19, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
One of the darkest HSE Shadows is the shadow of Over-Protection.
This shadow is about all of the ways we build a fortress around our bodies, our hearts, our lives – all in an attempt to protect our nervous system from becoming overloaded and from all the ways we’ve been hurt as a result in the past.
It’s the ego-mind’s attempt to keep you “safe”.
But, ironically, what ensues instead is a sense of isolation, powerlessness, “what’s wrong with me?”, “why can’t I have what she has?”, shame, limitation, lack, fear, scarcity and the foregoing of our super-power HSE Strengths.
Yikes. How depressing.
Yet! There’s good news! … Read More about this is dark
October 12, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
I constantly hear from HSEs insisting that they need to be doing the “next big marketing thing”. I get told how they “watched this video”, “attended this event”, or “heard this class” and that they now NEED this “next big marketing thing” and the reason they haven’t been able to be successful in their business is because they don’t have “IT”.
Whenever I hear this I first have to take a deep breath and then I kindly ask something like, “Have you been having at least one 1:1 selling conversation every day for at least 90 days?” and then I hear, “Well, no. I can’t find prospects because I don’t have “IT”!” and I lovingly reply, “Have you been ASKing people if they’d like to have a conversation with you?” and I hear, “NO! Where would I find them? What would I say?” to which I breathe even more deeply and say with even more love, “Have you been leaving your house to go out and meet them or picking up the phone to call them?”.
Now, this often produces a deep stare as if I had 3 heads.
See, here’s the thing I know for sure, HSEs are terrified of being seen because most of us have spent our lives trying very hard NOT to be seen as we’ve tried so hard to blend in with the rest of the world and not be found out for being different.
The jiggy is that this is EXACTLY what’s needed for an HSE to be successful. … Read More about the next big marketing thing
October 10, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
Welcome to Business Miracles, where today we are talking about The Top 12 HSE Strengths. Most Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs have never been taught how to manage their highly sensitive nature in a way that works for them rather than against them. Listen in as Heather teaches you how to shift out of your HSE Shadow behavior and into your HSE Strengths (a Business Miracle!) by using the power of what she calls your “Self-Kindness Statement” and other tools.
The reason why we so often avoid our feelings is because somewhere within the ego mind, we believe those feelings define who we are.” – Heather Dominick
- The importance of allowing complex feelings without becoming them
- Why we often avoid confronting or acknowledging our feelings
- How our HSE strengths can help us access our self kindness
- Why being so sensitive offers us such invaluable tools for our business
- Why strengthening these muscles can help you regulate your highly empathic nature as an HSE
- How many of our HSE strengths, if we’re not careful, easily become shadows
- How being a deep feeler is different than being an empathetic person
If we’re resisting our feelings, it’s like trying to stop a wave, which takes a lot of energy and is literally impossible. You can go out and try.” – Heather Dominick
The Top 12 HSE Strengths:
- Deep Listener
- Think Deeply
- Deeply Spiritual
- Excellent with Language
- Deep Belief in Justice
- Detail Oriented
- Deep Feeler
- Acute Awareness of Subtleties
You have the ability to truly hone your empathy, your empathic nature, so that you are choosing what you receive and what you don’t.” – Heather Dominick
October 05, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
On my recent travels, I thought a lot about how I hear from Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs) all the time that they don’t like to travel because it’s so stressful and overwhelming, but in truth (as is for so many things for those of us who are highly sensitive) this is only when we approach travel from our HSE Shadows.
When you’re in your HSE Strengths, particularly your intuition, it’s a playground of delight and opportunity! Since you’re literally out of your day to day routine and comfort cocoon your intuition can be open full-throttle and can have a field day with so many wide opportunities to guide you to! The result? Miracles abound! It’s quite magical and fun.
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September 28, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | 0 Comment
My mother died 3 months before I started my freshman year of high school. So on top of everything that a girl of 14 is dealing with I was also reeling from one of life’s deepest tragedies.
And then there was Lori.
Lori was older, bigger and louder than me. Lori did not like me for no other reason (that I could tell) than just being me and she made this very clear by bumping into me in the hallways, campaigning against me at lunch, and yelling at me during football games (I was a cheerleader).
But, honestly, you know what was worse than Lori’s bullying? That I didn’t say a word.
That freshman year turned into years of my life and all kinds of situations and relationships where I endured, rather than stood up.
Now, all these years later, I not only understand that I am highly sensitive, but I’ve learned that to hide (one’s true thoughts, feelings, whole self) is a common coping mechanism for Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs). It’s how we try to keep ourselves safe. … Read More about Which do you choose?
September 26, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
In order to reach the next level of your business as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur, it’s important to understand what Heather refers to as your HSE Shadows, how to identify this shadow behavior, and how to shift these shadows into your HSE Strengths.
Our first reaction to these HSE Shadows is often to push them away, avoid them, or ignore them altogether. While this might work for the short-term, our long-term health and our business suffers, and the solution might be something you don’t expect. Listen in as Heather shares the top 12 HSE Shadows she’s identified, the ways they impact your business growth, and how to manage them in the day-to-day of your business.
The key is, as an HSE, my intention I wish for you is that we are more than surviving, but we’re actually able to be in our business and our lives in a way that is thriving.” – Heather Dominick
- Why it’s important to understand that we are born Highly Sensitive and that we do not grow into it
- How the nervous system is affected in being a Highly Sensitive person
- Why we need to work with our HSE shadows instead of against them
- Why starting your own business is an important tool for growth for HSE’s
- The reason why many of the top HSE shadows go hand in hand
- How to befriend these difficult feelings and emotions
Going into the shadow state is the first step of what takes us out of being able to create the next level in our business.” – Heather Dominick
The Top 12 HSE Shadows:
- Analysis Paralysis
- People Pleasing
- Self Critical
- Judgmental of Self
- Judgmental of Others
- Health Issues
Our business is our portal for growth, expansion, and evolution, meaning your business is your primary tool of learning.” – Heather Dominick
September 21, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
It’s one thing to intellectually understand your HSE Coping Mechanism and it’s a-whole-nother to be willing to do “the real work” to change this behavior.
I see this with all three HSE Coping Mechanisms: Hiding, Pushing, and Combo-plattering, but I especially see it with “Pushers”.
Typically, the reason is that Pushers have used this Coping Mechanism to get them to the business success they’ve already created which is often already six-figure even seven-figure success.
The HSE will feel drawn to my teachings, recognize the need to do things differently (even if just their soul recognizes this before their head can catch up) because they are so maxed out, overwhelmed and unhappy working the way they’ve been working, but then when it comes to actually needing to change the way they operate in their business two energies tend to get triggered:
1) Righteous Anger: “How dare you tell me to do things differently? Don’t you see what I’ve created so far? Don’t you see this is the ONLY way? People really rely on me. I have bills to pay. I know what I’m doing.” … Read More about might not be you
September 19, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
I’m excited to share with you my latest ACTIVATION VIDEO about Connecting To Love! It’s short, but POWERFUL. You can find it—and more—on my YouTube Channel. Just click below to watch the video:
I’ve created these videos because as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE) you are literally coded to be a successful coach, healing practitioner, or creative entrepreneur. Everything the world needs right now.
And, yet, because of the tendency for HSEs to lean toward our Shadows rather than our Strengths we need to constantly be engaging in the Core Practice of shifting our perceptions about who we are and what we are capable of creating. According to A Course In Miracles, this IS the definition of a miracle.
That’s what this ACTIVATION VIDEO is designed to actualize for you, a Business Miracle.
Here are some other activations you’ll find waiting for you, too: … Read More about Connect To Love
September 14, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
As Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs) we can tend to take a lot the world throws our way quite personally (especially when we are in our Shadows rather than our Strengths).
Years and years of built-up annoyance of all the loud concerts, crazy football games or crowded bars we have forced ourselves to go to just builds up and turns us into this prickly pear that breaks the minute our sensitive self is touched (or otherwise known as triggered).
And then the annoyance, that hurt, disappointment comes out at the most inappropriate times…
Like, say, during a selling conversation.
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September 12, 2018 | Posted by Heather Dominick | Add A Comment
This is A Course in Business Miracles, episode number 39, What It Means To Be A Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur, part 2 of 2. In the final episode of this two-part series, we will continue to address the emotional side of being a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur and the ways you can best manage this aspect of your highly sensitive nature.
We are very comfortable in the upper chakras, so most of us try to heal the wounds of the lower chakras through the upper chakras.” – Heather Dominick
- The lasting effects of growing up with those who don’t understand highly sensitive people
- What fundamental mistake Highly Sensitives tend to make with their self-care
- Why we may not give our lower chakras the attention they need
- How your HSE shadows can work against you and damage the trust you have in yourself
- The primary ways your highly sensitive nature can work against you
We’re looking to be balanced, to be in full force, and the irony is as you give attention to those lower chakras, they become even more dynamic.” – Heather Dominick